tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post7212754657970785340..comments2023-06-17T03:38:57.128-04:00Comments on The Squashed Bologna: a slice of life in the sandwich generation: Ninety years, four months, fifteen daysVardahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13542045802860922751noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-12290616104369079242013-01-28T16:32:54.995-05:002013-01-28T16:32:54.995-05:00Oh Varda. I am so sorry. The depth of love for you...Oh Varda. I am so sorry. The depth of love for your parents. They know. They still know and feel you. I love you. xotracy@sellabitmumhttp://sellabitmum.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-27555875953985108182013-01-28T09:34:01.538-05:002013-01-28T09:34:01.538-05:00I am so sorry for your loss. As long as our moms ...I am so sorry for your loss. As long as our moms are living, we feel safe. It is a big change to have to live with that loss.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-76844383411067257072013-01-27T22:45:39.262-05:002013-01-27T22:45:39.262-05:00Again, Varda, I'm so sorry for your loss. I...Again, Varda, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm here to say thank you. I've been reading your posts since your mom passed and with each I've felt myself closer to calling my own mother. A purposeless call. A random call to say hello. Those don't happen. It's been months. I never know why it occurs, why it continues, why I let it. But your words? Your words at least make me pick up the phone and then it doesn't seem so purposeless after all.Arnebyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16445670708629187950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-25697889312488939792013-01-27T18:47:39.093-05:002013-01-27T18:47:39.093-05:00I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you h...I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you had your mother for so many years. I am blessed to still have mine, even as she slips away a little more each day. You had a special relationship with yours like I do mine. Since I don't have children, she has now become my child and my reason for living. God bless you, Varda as you deal with your grief and the challenge of every day life. As my mom always said to me (a chronic insomniac), "If you can't sleep, just rest". I wish you plenty of both as well as peace.Chrisorhttp://almostakiss.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-420073104287714472013-01-26T21:02:36.654-05:002013-01-26T21:02:36.654-05:00I'm with you, Varda.
We are walking the same ...I'm with you, Varda.<br /><br />We are walking the same path.<br /><br />I work and work until I feel my eyes can't stay open any more, then I pass out--not fall asleep, and am grateful for any 2 or 3 hr shift I get.<br /><br />It's sleep, just sleep--but we need it to keep going.<br /><br />Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00609629888008025050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-32545559565211004082013-01-26T02:05:13.360-05:002013-01-26T02:05:13.360-05:00I envy the depth of love you have for your parents...I envy the depth of love you have for your parents. No one knows for sure what happens when we die, but I like to think that they're happily catching up, talking about you and your boy-folk. I hope your grief gets a little easier to bear each day, and that you get comfort every where you turn.<br /><br />If you're in the mood for hot chocolate from Shake Shack let me know!! And I'd love to sit and listen to you reminisce about your mom, or just sit with you, any time.Vickienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-9672416879506992302013-01-25T18:36:20.816-05:002013-01-25T18:36:20.816-05:00i'm so sorry for your loss. you've summed ...i'm so sorry for your loss. you've summed up what it's like to lose a parent so well. my dad passed while i was in college. i wish you feelings of peace.MarfMomhttp://marfmom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-91337878900592238712013-01-25T17:10:49.917-05:002013-01-25T17:10:49.917-05:00I am inspired and encouraged by the wonderful rela...I am inspired and encouraged by the wonderful relationship you had with your parents. Thank you for sharing with us. Hugs, JamieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-23643360941345531012013-01-25T16:31:50.645-05:002013-01-25T16:31:50.645-05:00I miss my Mum and Dad so much that I feel as thoug...I miss my Mum and Dad so much that I feel as though I've cut off a limb rather than an umbilical chord, and I'm crying again, but at least I know it's not just me xxLooking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-88291900723698527272013-01-25T16:02:59.186-05:002013-01-25T16:02:59.186-05:00Varda, there is something about your words that is...Varda, there is something about your words that is staying with me lately. <br />You know that I'm with you in my heart...<br /><br />and you are reminding me of how much I love my mom , how much I want to drink in moments with her. Thank you for that, for giving me the gift of clarity in this moment. <br /><br />our moms, our umbilical knots, our first and most important connection. <br /><br /><br />love to you. <br />Kirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17894442143508446312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-29321385176509103162013-01-25T13:40:57.686-05:002013-01-25T13:40:57.686-05:00Oh, Varda. I'm so, so sorry.Oh, Varda. I'm so, so sorry. kellygnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-11398709800379587712013-01-25T11:39:07.500-05:002013-01-25T11:39:07.500-05:00What a beautiful post! I am so sorry for your loss...What a beautiful post! I am so sorry for your loss! Alihttp://www.supermariotwins.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-83686777782482468262013-01-25T11:25:39.211-05:002013-01-25T11:25:39.211-05:00So much beauty and honor pouring out of you, Varda...So much beauty and honor pouring out of you, Varda. I'm grateful for the privilege of reading it --Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03313726816776097840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-28276244370322785382013-01-25T11:08:57.086-05:002013-01-25T11:08:57.086-05:00I know it doesn't always make much difference,...I know it doesn't always make much difference, these words from people you don't know in person. But I feel it so strongly, and I want to tell you, you are loved. I believe you can take each breath you need to take today. I believe you can get through faking the motions of life, even though your heart is so heavy and broken. And then, when you must, just stop. The days will keep coming, the grief may be like the tide, and sooner or later the seed of sorrow will split and be one more bloom in your fuller life. My heart is with you!Glori B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02879149420445359645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-56935760831472505742013-01-25T10:13:02.704-05:002013-01-25T10:13:02.704-05:00Varda, my brother and I visited my mother's gr...Varda, my brother and I visited my mother's grave recently. It's been 16 years since she died at 67, alone in her apartment, and I still miss her so. Losing a mother is a very hard thing. We were in shock; we didn't see it coming though in hindsight there were signs but she hid a lot and my brothers and I, like so many grown children, are scattered across the country. I've had to work to get past the guilt. I won't lie: It's going to hurt like hell, and you're going to fall apart. But the ache does start to lessen. Try to focus on all the wonderful time you had together, and what an amazing daughter you were to her. Many children who live near their parents don't do what you did for her, made all more incredible given what you had to juggle at home. She will be with you always. xoBethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-10104510076770851952013-01-25T09:29:11.834-05:002013-01-25T09:29:11.834-05:00I'm sorry, Varda. I haven't been through t...I'm sorry, Varda. I haven't been through this yet. I don't think any person ever gets through the death of their parents easily. I am so glad you got so many years with her, though.tracey.becker1@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09606831315390042198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-13340534632748031582013-01-25T09:21:03.344-05:002013-01-25T09:21:03.344-05:00That was a beautiful piece. I feel like I carry my...That was a beautiful piece. I feel like I carry my dad with me in my heart now. Hugs to you!BLOOM - Parenting Kids With Disabilitieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06901482901008135659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-30040486532218703152013-01-25T07:33:55.846-05:002013-01-25T07:33:55.846-05:00That moment you realize that you are now part of t...That moment you realize that you are now part of that older generation, because the safety net you have of your parents is gone..............<br /><br />It's hard to deal with, but time does help.<br />The sadness lingers on, but you will remember good timesJuliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00609645828842316013noreply@blogger.com