tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post4269971330336019275..comments2023-06-17T03:38:57.128-04:00Comments on The Squashed Bologna: a slice of life in the sandwich generation: From Autist to ArtistVardahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13542045802860922751noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-35491465613291812362012-05-03T09:13:40.315-04:002012-05-03T09:13:40.315-04:00What a beautiful post -- straight from the heart! ...What a beautiful post -- straight from the heart! Thank you for sharing it. I will pass it along to a dear friend who is heartbroken whenever she can't understand her autistic child. It's tough for a mother not to fully know how her child feels. xoxoGottaLoveMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08401312454378618918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-24189779368900508322012-01-06T10:30:10.408-05:002012-01-06T10:30:10.408-05:00My 4-yr-old son X is on the spectrum, and he has s...My 4-yr-old son X is on the spectrum, and he has similar visual inclinations. I wonder what he's seeing....<br /><br />We joke (or fantasize) he'll be a cinematographer some day. Have you seen Tarkovsky's films? Take a look at "Nostalgia" and watch how the camera lingers over the water in the stream, how the narrative slows and the film expands laterally, into visual association and dream.<br /><br />I'm an artist, and this associative reverie is essential to my work, or my working process, or to me being who I am and being an artist. It's a different place I go to. How does this place relate to X's place? <br /><br />Sure, when the artwork's done it's hugely about communicative intent. But that kernel of inspiration comes from somewhere else, and the work at various stages along the way has very little to do with intent. <br /><br />(Often, the more "professional" you are, the more that intent shades into marketing... what does that do to the deeply personal in art, or even the spiritual? And how does this self-marketing relate to parenting – and how we look at our children, “marketing” them to the best schools, etc.?) <br /><br />A teacher of mine once told me: When you go into the studio, it’s crowded with all the great artists you admire. As you do the work, little by little they leave the room. When the work’s going really well, YOU leave the room. How does this relate to X, what he’s seeing/doing, and what we need to do for him to help him have a good life? Man, that’s it’s own blog!<br /><br />Maybe X and I should collaborate; I can help him with his communicative intent, he can help me with my vision, and we can help each other with our love….<br /><br />ArkayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-31057428626748791732011-12-28T13:01:05.731-05:002011-12-28T13:01:05.731-05:00This is beautiful! Some day I wish I could see the...This is beautiful! Some day I wish I could see the world through the lens my son uses. (some days I wish I could get him to see through mine!) But, this is such a beautiful comparison. LOVE!Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065409375913634202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-15470754879508162962011-06-30T16:20:25.391-04:002011-06-30T16:20:25.391-04:00interesting, this has given me a new perspective o...interesting, this has given me a new perspective on which to view my son's autism,angela dwyer,noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-51637429131565363142011-05-03T22:09:55.885-04:002011-05-03T22:09:55.885-04:00Oh my, I'm teary. My son is the artist, obses...Oh my, I'm teary. My son is the artist, obsessing on an idea or process of some art form for hours and hours in different places and venues, until he feels he has accomplished whatever objective he was looking to achieve, or until he is forced to move on to something else (not pretty). There is a stopping point but the obsessions are something else. I do hope that he finds that beauty and balance in creating the communicative intent for himself.<br /> I pray your son does in his own way as well. Have you had him try his eye with a camera yet?!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04440694520775692850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-15754537871617278632011-04-17T15:09:08.602-04:002011-04-17T15:09:08.602-04:00i utterly loved that post. as an artist myself and...i utterly loved that post. as an artist myself and a mummy of a beautiful girl with smith magenis syndrome it spoke to me on every single level. you are an artist yourself, you painted a beautiful picture and i will never ever look at a house brick in the same light ever again! xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12648229748088235109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-1218824448938117042011-02-18T01:09:55.164-05:002011-02-18T01:09:55.164-05:00This is a super piece of writing and a really good...This is a super piece of writing and a really good explaination of what a slice of autism is, thank you for posting.<br />Helen x<br />http://acraftykindoftruffle.blogspot.comHelen Pigotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00568639994464551097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-68830494794286095062011-02-13T22:56:33.583-05:002011-02-13T22:56:33.583-05:00Thank you for also helping me to understand autism...Thank you for also helping me to understand autism. I am so proud of you and your son. You have come so far and he's lucky to have such a supportive, loving mom.Hollyhttp://www.theculturemom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-70769905710031665352011-02-13T14:36:13.213-05:002011-02-13T14:36:13.213-05:00Beautiful post in honour of the incredible steps y...Beautiful post in honour of the incredible steps your son has taken. From Autist to Artist indeed! In fact, it is amazing how many of our kids have artistic talent. I believe my son has some small artistic talent....My "Artist at Work" post details one kinda funny incident!Their ability to pay such attention to detail plays no small part in that. No doubt many Artists were also Autists!!<br /><br />xx Jazzyjazzygalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04069218745940412457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-67599904090884516912011-02-12T12:09:23.224-05:002011-02-12T12:09:23.224-05:00You post game me food for thought. I sit on the ...You post game me food for thought. I sit on the educators' side of the table. Yesterday, we sat in a meeting with the teacher of a student who is most likely on the spectrum. I worked with him last year and the description of his growth in one year is amazing. Thanks to his parents who see his gifts and bring us back to those talents regardless of the "rigidity" you described. <br /><br />As I read, I thought it's that push of curriculum and the weight of high-stakes tests that cause educators to forget the artist and focus on the autist as someone higher has set the agenda for them.<br /><br />I will keep the picture you painted of your son in my head; an artist absorbed with the brick in the park on a beautiful day with his mom when I come to the table again to discuss the next child that doesn't fit the mold.<br /><br />Thanks for you words, a gift,<br /><br />Jane<br /><br />http://theholeintheceiling.blogspot.com/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-26586334082545795902011-02-11T16:04:43.023-05:002011-02-11T16:04:43.023-05:00Fascinating post. I'd never thought about it l...Fascinating post. I'd never thought about it like this. <br /><br />Thanks for Rewinding at the Fibro!Life In A Pink Fibrohttp://lifeinapinkfibro.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-78867702308161135602011-02-11T16:04:41.063-05:002011-02-11T16:04:41.063-05:00I've come here from The Rewind Blog Hop. Wow -...I've come here from The Rewind Blog Hop. Wow - what a fantastic post. As the mother of Boy 1, Aspie, I love the way you have put into words the unique way our children see the world. <br /><br />Will be following from now on.Madmotherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18189416781378632230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-55499527557070117922011-02-10T15:27:53.673-05:002011-02-10T15:27:53.673-05:00i adore this posti adore this postFloortime Lite Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07988840423227903784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-19477442957630811922011-01-30T07:24:46.151-05:002011-01-30T07:24:46.151-05:00So true...what of Monet's obsession with colou...So true...what of Monet's obsession with colours and light on haystacks!Naturally Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15999271127735997770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-91558344732788651262011-01-09T23:55:09.004-05:002011-01-09T23:55:09.004-05:00What an amazing connection you have made. And som...What an amazing connection you have made. And some artists are on the spectrum. I am glad your child is doing well. You write beautifully.Emilyhttp://www.mamasick.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-36561200302823833462011-01-08T09:33:46.087-05:002011-01-08T09:33:46.087-05:00Varda,
What a cool blog, and really moving piece. ...Varda,<br />What a cool blog, and really moving piece. Glad I found you through Saturday Sampling.Amy Sullivanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03571083038560430815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-18210079467515040682011-01-05T02:25:28.072-05:002011-01-05T02:25:28.072-05:00hi I found your blog via Jen's Air your Archiv...hi I found your blog via Jen's Air your Archives. I enjoyed reading this very interesting & fascinating post. I have a friend who has young boys with autism. I will pass this on to her to read.Greenie01http://www.greenie01.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-15325526089368145682011-01-03T18:00:35.647-05:002011-01-03T18:00:35.647-05:00What strongly focused and compelling writing.
Thi...What strongly focused and compelling writing.<br /><br />This was an amazing piece.<br /><br />I am so happy to see you blog linked to Alphabe-Thursday. I would have never found it to read otherwise.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12462124067637610359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-73080520617777773872010-12-30T12:16:58.528-05:002010-12-30T12:16:58.528-05:00Well done! I'm glad you did this year in revie...Well done! I'm glad you did this year in review and that I was introduced to your blog.<br /><br />Happy New Year!<br /><br />=)Susan Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16049586085703324088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-11047835528308859592010-12-03T19:31:36.872-05:002010-12-03T19:31:36.872-05:00This piece is so beautiful and poignant! I love t...This piece is so beautiful and poignant! I love this perspective.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16484931572676431046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-3238206759172701512010-12-02T10:40:23.298-05:002010-12-02T10:40:23.298-05:00Found you on the blog hop and since you said to re...Found you on the blog hop and since you said to read this if I were reading only one post, you had me at only one post so I did. Lovely perspective. I'm sending it along to my daughter who teaches third grade and is working very hard right now with a mom of one boy who is clearly on the spectrum but mom just can't handle the truth and therefore is balking at the help the school wants to provide. (She doesn't want him in "special ed" but she doesn't realize what truly is best for him as what's happening to him now is just sad.) I'm hoping that maybe she'll read your view and understand that what makes her son "special" doesn't have to be all bad. Even though I'm one of the moms of "easy" girls, I can relate to what you write about b/c you are a gifted storyteller. Thanks.Debby Carrollhttp://raisingamazingdaughters.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-17233095446879480342010-11-27T01:24:15.890-05:002010-11-27T01:24:15.890-05:00This, too, is beautiful. I love that you came to t...This, too, is beautiful. I love that you came to this awareness; it makes a lot of sense.Mrs4444https://www.blogger.com/profile/06426176094895489541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-42720344163636431972010-11-20T12:30:13.876-05:002010-11-20T12:30:13.876-05:00Thank you for taking me to the park with you guys ...Thank you for taking me to the park with you guys and providing me another view on some of my son's odd behaviors.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16789645257186751410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-4706415074136604392010-11-12T12:20:18.128-05:002010-11-12T12:20:18.128-05:00Still my fave!Still my fave!Brenda Rothman (Mama Be Good)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17399227210081662280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-3897476961912053852010-11-08T06:33:52.031-05:002010-11-08T06:33:52.031-05:00Every time I read this I get something new out of ...Every time I read this I get something new out of it:) Jen@jencull (jen)http://www.thekingandeye.comnoreply@blogger.com