tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post2073948913440028188..comments2023-06-17T03:38:57.128-04:00Comments on The Squashed Bologna: a slice of life in the sandwich generation: PackingVardahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13542045802860922751noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-87002457152762076402012-09-03T00:06:18.523-04:002012-09-03T00:06:18.523-04:00What a lovely lovely idea!
the kids could also ...What a lovely lovely idea! <br />the kids could also choose/ write about items that have good memories attached. I actually took some photos of my grandmothers apartment right before the final pack up started, and those shots are really nice to have.<br />eveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-62337264493111728232012-09-01T02:45:13.570-04:002012-09-01T02:45:13.570-04:00the winnowing, the winnowing. I did this with my m...the winnowing, the winnowing. I did this with my mom when she moved (once, twice, three times...) and it was brutal - and she was just going into another house of her own, not a room. I wish I had an attic to lend you for your treasures. Could you make a scrapbook? Photograph things, write captions (maybe Ethan could help you), keep the memories and stories, if not the actual THING? deborah quinnhttp://www.mannahattamamma.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-12960580459501603192012-08-31T09:38:14.050-04:002012-08-31T09:38:14.050-04:00Oh, this has to be so hard. Thinking of you.Oh, this has to be so hard. Thinking of you.Stimeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09685801693683588805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-88076164834210763312012-08-31T09:12:36.508-04:002012-08-31T09:12:36.508-04:00Fabulous advice !!! Varda, please take heed. I kno...Fabulous advice !!! Varda, please take heed. I know this is a difficult time for you.<br />Love, LoisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-11996755216333318312012-08-31T03:46:20.299-04:002012-08-31T03:46:20.299-04:00Oh, also, I remember that horrible feeling of gett...Oh, also, I remember that horrible feeling of getting rid of the little tchotchkes on her night table... things that were important to her, but not to me. Little souvenirs of HER stories, whose significance died with her. So hard, I am crying just thinking about that time. So sorry you have to go through this. More hugs,<br />-e-Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-4015188236404516082012-08-31T03:40:45.184-04:002012-08-31T03:40:45.184-04:00Varda, my dear, I so wish I were in NY to help. (a...Varda, my dear, I so wish I were in NY to help. (alas, having lost both my parents by 27, I am familiar with the process). What I will say is, remember that this is a one way process, and acting too rashly in the panicked emotion of the moment will create too many ghosts. Set aside one or two boxes for some of the "not ready to decide yet" things, and store them in the basement of some friend or relative with more space. (hell, you can ship them to our basement in Oregon!). In a few months, when the sword is no longer over your head, you can go through those boxes more mindfully, and make more relaxed decisions. Even if you wind up letting go of everything in the boxes, you will feel better because of the chance to decide at your own pace. Big hugs to you. Remember to breathe, friend.<br /><br />xoeveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-65434004278039072992012-08-31T00:21:50.673-04:002012-08-31T00:21:50.673-04:00i cannot even begin ti imagine how heartbreakingly...i cannot even begin ti imagine how heartbreakingly difficult this is. I'm sorry this is happening.Robbie Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12355421896613106268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-55692254842720087582012-08-31T00:19:35.527-04:002012-08-31T00:19:35.527-04:00Know that you were most fortunate to have a loving...Know that you were most fortunate to have a loving mother and to respect her in this way. She will not want possessions now; she will want the girl she has been blessed with - you are both very lucky. (By the way, any chance that she can at a later stage be upgraded to a single room-ask if you would like to, you might get lucky)<br />Casey Erica BanksAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com