tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post1848728332844030360..comments2023-06-17T03:38:57.128-04:00Comments on The Squashed Bologna: a slice of life in the sandwich generation: Her way homeVardahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13542045802860922751noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-58093641040581424542012-10-14T15:28:25.477-04:002012-10-14T15:28:25.477-04:00What a difficult thing to be both witness and part...What a difficult thing to be both witness and participant of, and a reminder of how we should cherish our memories while we are still able to. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-17598753910346284702012-10-14T08:52:58.217-04:002012-10-14T08:52:58.217-04:00Wow. I can only imagine what it was like to write...Wow. I can only imagine what it was like to write this. My mom is in the nursing home as well and she is so very depressed. Her mind is there but her body has failed her and she is to "young" to be there. Your words are so touching and telling of what we see.mryjhnsnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08957396450720425382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-13586113722377345382012-10-13T22:02:01.925-04:002012-10-13T22:02:01.925-04:00Varda this is so well written. I am going through ...Varda this is so well written. I am going through the same situation with my MIL. She is home, though and insists it is not her home.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088944123595868347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-85387667476408143372012-10-13T19:47:45.874-04:002012-10-13T19:47:45.874-04:00I'm so sorry. This has to be so hard on your w...I'm so sorry. This has to be so hard on your whole family. <br /><br />I had to giggle at little at what she said about the MF'ers not knowing any better. ;)Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-86835413660215961282012-10-13T10:26:15.503-04:002012-10-13T10:26:15.503-04:00Oh, so painful. I went through it, and though in ...Oh, so painful. I went through it, and though in some ways it wasn't like this, in others it was uncannily so.<br /><br />Everyone should be able to leave on his or her own terms - that's what my mom's long season of dying taught me.<br /><br />But so few of us are afforded that grace.<br /><br />I am sorry.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05602868040771218507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-23592550472559679382012-10-12T11:27:35.186-04:002012-10-12T11:27:35.186-04:00My parents' health failed when I was in my 20s...My parents' health failed when I was in my 20s. Both of them on parallel tracks of decline. My father had a stroke that left him disabled and epileptic. My mother had breast cancer. My father, who had had polio years earlier, had difficulty swallowing and frequent bouts of pneumonia. Then they were both in a very serious car accident and dealt with a whole new set of issues in recovery: head injuries, broken bones. My mother's cancer spread to her bones. She had a hip replacement. It was often overwhelming. My peers had no idea what I was going through; they were living an entirely different lives. My parents' died two months apart, when I was 30. A hard journey for all of us.V-Grrrl @ Compost Studioshttp://www.v-grrrl.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-41578656426818884092012-10-11T16:35:22.801-04:002012-10-11T16:35:22.801-04:00This is a heartbreaking read - I'm sorry for w...This is a heartbreaking read - I'm sorry for what you are going through with your mother right now. I'm sure she's grateful for your love. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-40068414941842898602012-10-11T07:47:06.481-04:002012-10-11T07:47:06.481-04:00Heartbreaking. Prayers for both of you, Varda.
&q...Heartbreaking. Prayers for both of you, Varda.<br /><br />"/Susan Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16049586085703324088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-3149990217640486462012-10-10T18:58:59.855-04:002012-10-10T18:58:59.855-04:00I'm sorry. Take care of yourself.I'm sorry. Take care of yourself.GirlWithTheCanehttp://www.girlwiththecane.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-34563520969734139862012-10-10T16:19:14.906-04:002012-10-10T16:19:14.906-04:00I am so sorry. Your mom sounds like a bad ass with...I am so sorry. Your mom sounds like a bad ass with her sense of humor though and I hope it can help her and you thru this long long road you are on.Robbie Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12355421896613106268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-14384204981815577432012-10-10T15:12:48.068-04:002012-10-10T15:12:48.068-04:00Oh, my dear Varda: how you could write a book that...Oh, my dear Varda: how you could write a book that would help so many, on this road we're on.<br /><br />The golden years.Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00609629888008025050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-21470801818392269102012-10-10T14:00:18.190-04:002012-10-10T14:00:18.190-04:00Hoping that things get better for you both you and...Hoping that things get better for you both you and your mother. I hope I have half your strength if I ever need to go through something like this.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09224711908880146896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-54519971572398316632012-10-10T13:56:07.156-04:002012-10-10T13:56:07.156-04:00Oh honey, I wish I could hug you right now. Oh honey, I wish I could hug you right now. Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15881590483174001768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-12656006738272668512012-10-10T13:28:02.919-04:002012-10-10T13:28:02.919-04:00I'm so sorry. It seems that sending her away i...I'm so sorry. It seems that sending her away is making the situation worse in some ways. But sometimes you just have to work through the situation that you are handed, as you and and your mother are doing. Sending prayers for both of you. Tracie Nallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908908021649000930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-23336528633753214152012-10-10T13:15:58.094-04:002012-10-10T13:15:58.094-04:00I does seem a little ridiculous that they can'...I does seem a little ridiculous that they can't keep an immobile old lady safe when she's confined to her own bedroom unless taken to the communal rooms which are presumably supervised. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-62180437970521603972012-10-10T13:02:25.764-04:002012-10-10T13:02:25.764-04:00Oh Varda. Oh Varda. Love you. xoOh Varda. Oh Varda. Love you. xotracy@sellabitmumhttp://sellabitmum.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-81522247859751711422012-10-10T12:55:33.496-04:002012-10-10T12:55:33.496-04:00What NH is she at? They don't have an in-house...What NH is she at? They don't have an in-house psych?!? They think it's better to send out a resident who is already a bit disoriented...?! I really feel for you - they are taking a difficult situation & surely not making it any easier...MyThreeBlogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07817857109007712976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-20822596321442163232012-10-10T12:51:42.346-04:002012-10-10T12:51:42.346-04:00Sending you both many many hugs! Sending you both many many hugs! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-43510653964786759642012-10-10T12:45:40.736-04:002012-10-10T12:45:40.736-04:00My heart just breaks for you.
But I'm so glad ...My heart just breaks for you.<br />But I'm so glad she has you.Cyndy Bushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12617354883122757511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-26888813456534279792012-10-10T12:44:21.309-04:002012-10-10T12:44:21.309-04:00I can't imagine the pain of watching my mother...I can't imagine the pain of watching my mother slip away. I echo Flannery when I say I hope that I am as good and caring a daughter to my mom when she enters the twilight of her life. Thinking of you and of your mom.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-34076908960063230232012-10-10T12:40:48.682-04:002012-10-10T12:40:48.682-04:00Oh Varda. It's so hard. ((hugs))Oh Varda. It's so hard. ((hugs))magpiehttp://magpiemusing.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670201345837905864.post-46401262518852364212012-10-10T12:39:06.395-04:002012-10-10T12:39:06.395-04:00As always, you write to eloquently about this diff...As always, you write to eloquently about this difficult journey. I can only hope to be so dignified when it's my turn to escort my mother through her final years.Flanneryhttp://theconnorchronicles.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com